Onion heads

Opening up and sharing your heart with a group of people you're just learning to trust is like peeling the skin off an onion.

You start with the light, flaky stuff on the outside. You know, that stuff everyone sees anyway, and it's so dry it just flakes off easily. The stuff you know people can relate to, you can make jokes about it. Light stuff.

Then it gets a little juicier. This is where the onion might make you want to cry a little. You have 3 choices:

#1- Stop right there. Decide you don't want to cry, you don't want to go any deeper. And that's ok. for now.

#2- You can keep going, but you figure out a way to keep the tears from falling. I've heard that keeping your mouth closed and breathing through your nose works, as does peeling the onion in the sink under running water. Or you just turn off your heart and speak with your head, stating the facts without getting the emotions involved. I've learned to do this when I need to be honest about how I feel but don't want to hurt someone's feelings. Or...

#3- You keep on going, courageously baring your soul, pushing through the tears, exposing each and every ugly layer of onion skin, till you get to the core. And all those layers just lie there, naked, exposed, fumigating the air with with their stench and bringing tears to the courageous few who dare to come closer.

All analogies aside, this is hard stuff. You don't bare your deepest hurts to just anyone.

(to be continued, I'm getting sleepy....)

:)

 

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